Irritations

The neighbor to the north asked me last night about the ‘No trespassing’ signs. I explained. Then this morning she came back with how another neighbor had asked her, so she was asking me so she could explain to them. Sounding like middle school?? THEN, she brought our neighbor to the east into it 12-hours after I’d answered her initial question. I found this out because our eastern neighbor blind copied me on her emailed reply to the northern neighbor. This lobbed me straight into Pissed. So, I wrote again, rather diplomatically, to the northern neighbor:

“Hey, I’d like to ask, going forward, that you not act as intermediary between me and any neighbor that has questions about anything (at all) that’s happening with my property. That’s too much for someone to expect of you. If there’s a next time, pass along my phone number, or remind them we all have each other’s email addresses due to Mary’s group emails, and have them call me. That way I can handle any concerns directly.”

She came back with what a friendly conversation it had been and that the neighbor just wondered about the scary signs 🙄. I reiterated:

“Glad it was friendly. And, in future, have anyone call me rather than you asking me so that you can tell them.” Amping it up a little in order to squash the drama bug.

The next reply I get from her that is anything other than, ‘Oh, sure, I will absolutely send folks to you about questions they have regarding your property’ will be met with an absolutely undisguised, unfiltered dress down.

My respect for this neighbor has eroded over the years. She lives her life out loud on social media, but in a passive aggressive way. Particularly medically, which I think is a crappy thing to do to people:

“😤😖 Had to be medivac’d off the Island AGAIN! I only got home two days ago!! 🤢” And that’s it! Either let people know what’s going on, or say nothing. What she’s doing is looking for 50 responses asking “Oh Dear, what’s wrong??” And she doesn’t answer for days. This happens constantly (yes, sadly she does have a lot of medical emergencies). Having it tossed at me directly, with a different twist, is crossing all sorts of boundaries. I am hoping this back and forth will stop. Ball is in her court.