MIL Update

There are so many details that they are seeping into our every conversation. Movers are hired, hard conversations happen tomorrow as well as an assessment by the community nurse, a tour of her new apartment and the community. DH has written a document outlining answers to all the potential questions.

Home health was brought on board last week. MIL was reluctant. When the vestibular PT suggested MIL use a cane or walker, she refused. It was eye opening to us both that this suggestion was made. MIL, among other things, needs to work on her posture. In hind sight, I can see why this is important. If you’re standing and walking in a ‘not-straight-up’ posture, I’m sure falling is easier to ‘achieve.’ MIL walks with her shoulders sloped forward, and sort of lists as she walks, meaning she doesn’t walk in a straight line, but trends to one side. We’re hoping PT helps with this.

Neither of us are sleeping well. My stress has settled into injury sites, old and new, and so I’m taking Advil at regular intervals to calm things the fuck down. Gardening helps, physically and psychically. My DH doesn’t get the gardening breaks that I do… He’s either working, momaging, or planning. I feel for him. I was there…

After we get her moved, he can take a breath and see her easily for lunch or dinner. The community is 12-minutes from us. A couple of weeks after we get her moved, we’ll start working on her house: Store, Donate, Dump. Then prep it for rental.