Which Vehicle?
Mom wanted me to bring her the desk her father made her when she was a child. The desk has been in her Mainland home since she and my father bought the house and suddenly needed to furnish a second home. When this conversation started 6 weeks ago, she talked about me bringing the desk […]
Control
I am a control freak. My children, friends and a college professor have pointed this out. I have never refuted their observation/diagnosis. When I am upset or have a spat with someone I love, I clean because it’s something I have control over in the face of a situation or event where I have marginal […]
And while we were gone…
We just spent a week in Mexico. Prior to this I let all of mom’s neighbors know our destination, contact info and backup plans should anything happen. In some ways it felt like planning to leave a pre-schooler alone, only worse in that mom is under her own locomotion, so to speak. I am delighted […]
A Delightful Chat
With my mom just now. She sounded good, content and grounded. If one didn’t know the extent of her illness, they’d just think she was merely repetitive. The most alarming thing she asked me was if she had cable TV at her mainland home. I assured her she did (for 6 years now). It’s the […]
Umbrella
Mom’s insurance agent wrote to me today to say the 2011 accident claim had been closed, and therefore she’d been able to obtain a quote in the ‘surplus lines’ market for an umbrella policy for mom. This insurance carrier will only insure mom for a million and demands a doctor’s certification within 30 days of […]
Insurance II
I’ve been curious about the accident my mother was in the day after she got her license back. In talking with mom’s insurance agent about a possible umbrella policy, I was able to find out what happened: Mom wrote a long detailed letter to the adjuster. The adjuster decided to pay the claim BECAUSE there […]
Insurance
My mom’s insurance agent is unable to procure an umbrella policy for my mom. This is due to there being an open accident claim from 2011 when my mom rear-ended another vehicle in the parking garage of the clinic where my father was under followup treatment for leukemia. Every vehicle in that parking garage has […]
Compare & Contrast
Two and a half weeks ago I spent 44-ish hours with my former mother-in-law (FMIL), who had some out-patient surgery and asked me to be with her. Since my former husband passed away, 2 years ago, she and I have seen each other more than we did the entire 16 years I was married to […]
Driving Mitigations
In considering what to do, or not to do, in the wake of my mom thwaking a parked car the day after regaining her driver’s license I have done the following: I talked to my attorney child, who thinks it’s time to pursue guardianship over my mom’s affairs. She cites good reasons: see above, refer […]
Dementia Dance - Travels with Mom 